I recently had a doula client for whom sticking things in her vagina was a very foreign idea. No tampons, diva cups, keepers, or masturbation. So when I explained the potential benefits of Evening Primrose Oil capsules for ripening the cervix, she was hesitant.
Her attempts at perineal massage had been frustrating and she’d given up. But I assured her that the capsules were much less labor intensive, and she went ahead and made the trip to the health food store.
After some negotiation around thinking she wouldn’t be able to reach her vagina to insert the capsules, she finally called late one night to triumphantly report that they were in. But she also said they were uncomfortable and stinging her.
Uncomfortable? Stinging? I couldn’t think of any possible reason she could be experiencing anything like this, and it was alarming. Had I told her something wrong? Did she have something awful on her hands when she inserted the capsules? Was she allergic?
So as I’m furiously googling away to make sure there wasn’t an emergency going on inside her vagina, she texts me. ”Ok so I think I’m stupid & figured out the issue. I didn’t have them up far enough but I do now.”
She was not the stupid one here. I was the one who knew that vaginal insertion wasn’t her thing, and it should’ve occurred to me to explain the process. Instead I made assumptions and projected my own personal comfort with insertion onto her inappropriately.
So this is me smacking myself on the head and telling the world: inserting Evening Primrose Oil capsules into your vagina is like using a tampon–if you can still feel it, it’s not in far enough.
End embarrassed, apologetic rant.