It’s Been Four Weeks, and I’m Still Scared to Use My Vagina.

Four weeks ago, my Bartholin Gland Cyst reared its ugly, painful, infected head.  Three weeks ago, I underwent surgery for it.  One of the many consequences of this ordeal?  It’s been a month since my partner or I have had sex.  And I want to.

So we tried.  And…my partner’s dick felt like a knife blade slicing my vagina open.  Again.

The doctor told me Wednesday that my stitches are almost all out, and that I’m definitely healed enough for sex, although we should avoid “swinging from the chandeliers.”  We had every reason to think we were both about to get laid.  No-go.  Instead, I got to do that whole roll-over-and-sulk-while-still-really-horny thing.  Lame.

Now I’m having all these thoughts I hadn’t considered before.  I’m worried that this experience is going to be the beginning of a long pattern of physical pain, emotional trauma…just uck around my vag.  I’m not used to uck around my vag.
I’m not used to being afraid to touch my own cunt.

I am a proud vagina-wearer.  I wear her with pride, I play with her with pride, and I’m not used to uck.  I’m scared of uck, I’m scared of having baggage around her.

How long is this going to take?  The doctor says I’ll be completely healed–no more scar tissue, no more marsupial pouch–in six months.  Six months is a long time, and he never ever said the words ‘six months’ when we were talking about having this surgery.

I thought all the scared was behind me.  I thought I left all the scared behind in the operating room.  But now, again, I’m scared.

4 responses to “It’s Been Four Weeks, and I’m Still Scared to Use My Vagina.

  1. Oh Im so sorry, that sucks :(

  2. Just FYI- Red Clover is great for Bartholin gland cysts. Drink the tea frequently. Good luck and so sorry!

  3. Hi! I´m gonna have the same surgery in a few days, and I´m terrified for the consequences this surgery might leave in my sexual life. It has been 2 years since your surgery, how do yo feel now? I have read that sometimes the scar tissue becomes an issue during sex, (it can be painful), what was your experience? How much time did it take to get a full recovery? Thank you, and I hope you are fine now.

  4. What is the update on these surgeries? I’ve have my bartholin cyst for 2 years now. It never went away. Ruining my life to be honest. I would like to know how you ladies did with the surgery.

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